Written: 3/25/11
Why on earth do people ask me for my opinion or advice??!
If you come to me asking for either I'm going to assume it's because you trust my judgement.
Well I have assumed wrong thus far.
I get so frustrated with telling people what I think and watching them do exactly opposite of what I suggest.
Granted I'm not perfect, we all know this.
And everyone is going to do their own thing, live their own life.
And that's fine!
The part I don't comprehend is the extra step.
The one extra step everyone takes by turning to a friend and saying these cursed words, "What should I do?"
When in their mind is already a cleverly hatched plan of exactly how and what they are gonna do.
Do yourself a favor and save a step! Don't ask anyone anything and spare yourself some humiliation if and when you do screw up.
Do me a favor and spare me the drama. Because honestly I don't care about the situation, but I am giving you an opinion because you asked for one and because I am your friend and I love you enough to be honest with you.
Maybe people feel obligated to ask, or with hopes of one day actually taking someone's advice.
Who knows?
So then, this friend reserves the right to say "I told you so."
Well I'm getting tired of saying "I told you so!"
Oh but here's the icing on the cake.
People will do this over and over and over again, and never learn that sometimes the outside perspective is the best.
This is insanity, quite literally. The dictionary definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
If this all seems a bit hypocritical, it's because it is.
Sometimes learning the hard way is the best, sometimes it's the only way to learn.
I have no room to talk because I have always learned the hard way, I'm as stubborn as a mule and refuse to listen to anyone.
The difference with me, however, is that I only ask if I'm second guessing my pre formed plan, otherwise I could care less what you think.
Thus since I have taken note of this questionable behavior, I thought I might as well put my thoughts out there.
Because, if you know me, I tend to enjoy rocking the boat and I always tell it like it is.
Maybe if we all cut the crap we would all be a little more sane.
Nobody could play the blame game, there would be no more embarrassing I-told-you-so's, and a hell of a lot less drama.
Grow up, take responsibility for what you know you are gonna do, don't bring others into your pointless drama.
Make sure something is worth it before you drag everyone else down with you.
"Therapists get paid to do what a real friend will do for free." - Megan Sienkiewich
