You can't change anything now. And the reality is...you're right and you're wrong. You win some, you lose some.
It doesn't hurt to think about him, no.
Maybe a little because you now see how much of a slimeball he is. How could you trust a dirtbag like that?
But it hurts to think about him leaving you for her.
You are right because he left you for something better. Something better for him, for now. Until he does the same to her. (Which I'm sure he would say that would never happen, until it does. It's a vicious cycle.)
But you are wrong because there is nothing wrong with you, simply you were not the best for him and he definitely wasn't the best for you.
You're right because you are better and you do deserve better.
But you would be wrong to wish him any less.
Please don't lose heart. It was the wrong person, perhaps at the right time, but you won't ever know. You wouldn't want to know. For it to be the right time with the wrong person would be hazardous. Because being with the "wrong person" means it's never meant to last.
He was good for one thing. When he kicked you to the curb he saved you some what could someday have been extreme heartbreak, possibly divorce, pain that could waste away years of your life.
You are young yet, you have got plenty of time, and hundreds of thousands of options.
Yet you have loved, and you know for sure this time. You are 100% positive that what you felt was real.
Guess what. He can't ever take that from you. You win.
Even though sometimes it may feel like you lost this round, you didn't. Don't fool yourself into thinking you miss him. Because you don't. You miss the feeling you felt with him.
Love.
This overwhelming emotion grabbed hold of you and you wished it would never let go.
The amazing thing about love, it always gives you a second chance, and a third, and fourth, and so on. Until you are with the right person at the right time. And when that happens, though I've yet to experience it, I think that love will be even more powerful than before.
But I can't let myself think about it. It gets depressing, knowing it was right there, in your grasp and yet it slipped right through your fingers.
I used to think that I would only ever fall in love with one person and when I knew that I had fallen in love, that the rest of my life would begin from there.
I guess I believed in soul mates, destiny, fate, whatever you want to call it. Which I still do, I believe there is one right person out there for you. But it doesn't mean you won't be fooled along the way. We're human, we make mistakes, it's in our DNA. And it's okay. I've made many.
But don't dwell on it. Don't regret. Learn from it and move forward.
All things come to pass in due time. Live your life, make the best of what you got and don't let anyone bring you down.
Enjoy the little things in life.
Ride the waves.
"Let go and let God."
"The art of living lies less in eliminating our troubles than in growing with them. "- Bernard M. Beruch
